I’ve been obsessed with busyness lately. But not being “busy” in itself, but rather analysing the why of today’s fast paced life.
It’s a little bit of a theme of late for me – I’ve written about the importance of getting enough sleep and mindfulness…now busyness! I’ve been listening to podcasts about rest, sleep, being busy, I’ve finally read the awesome “Your best year ever” by Kelly Exeter and am now reading “How to thrive in a world of too much busy” by Tony Crabbe.
Why the sudden concern? Well, I concentrate so much on the food and exercise side of wellbeing and not enough on the “mental” side of things.
I think my brain needs to go on a diet. Let me tell you why.
I’ve shared the meme that says “my brain has too many tabs open” before on Facebook and it’s true. I think way too much about everything and it’s damn hard to switch it off. I set unrealistic expectations for myself and have very high standards and big goals.
It means to the outside world I look very driven, motivated and together.
But inside, it means if I don’t stay “on top” of things mentally, I can feel pressured and like I’m not doing “enough”. Despite the fact no one is placing pressure on me..only I am. And I don’t like to let anyone down.
So this year I decided to really work out why I’m like this and try to reign some of this thinking in. Finally, half way through the year, I’m really doing it!
Why is busyness bad?
We all know why really, but according to the book it’s bad for your health – we are not designed to be in a constant state of stress, we need downtime. Living in a constant state of “flight” means we are not giving our bodies time to recuperate. It can make us tired and sick. And well…just over it!
Being so “busy” has negative impacts in all areas of our lives. It can damage our health and strain our relationships. It also leads to living on “autopilot” in many areas – such as eating and exercise. Being overly busy can mean you have no time for eating well, moving and generally looking after yourself.
And funnily enough, the busier you are – often the less you achieve. Being on edge all the time is no good for creativity.
We live in a world of too much. And it will continue to get worse.
My favourite quote from the book so far is “we tell ourselves that next year will be better” and it never is. This is so true for me. We have to stop looking to the future for change. It’s like saying to yourself “you will have more time when the kids are in school. I’ll have more time when I move house blah blah”. No you won’t – as you will just fill that time with more BUSYNESS!
No matter what stage or place you are in your life, you will fill it with things (and stuff probably) until you are just as busy as before. It really will never end until you make it. You need to make a conscious choice to do something.
I think understanding this is the key to feeling more in control of your life.
Understanding that the expectations you have on yourself can make you feel stressed also is key.
The washing will always be there. The dishes will always be there. When you “catch up” you will inevitably fall behind again. That’s not being negative – that’s simply saying take time for you, time to relax. The world won’t end if you do.
I’m totally getting better at this, but it’s taking time. And work. But I find the benefits are flowing from one area to another. I make more time to just sit and ‘be” with the girls – they in turn are happier to have had more time and will go off on their own more, fulfilled.
I’m making more time to potter around the house and garden – which means mentally I’m more refreshed and when I do sit down and work – I’m a lot faster and more creative.
Which all sounds pretty good – don’t you think?
Do you relate to the overwhelming sense of busyness right now? Do you like it – or do you want to change it?
Welcome to…Wellness Wednesday!!!
It’s also time for another Wellness Wednesday! Every Wednesday, myself and the lovely Dr Sash over at From The Left Field open a link up and we’d love to see your wellness posts! Anything from clean eating, to fitness, to taking care of your body, taking care of your mind, taking care of the kids, whatever makes you feel good and keeps you well. Simply post your fave wellness post for the week. Sound good? Come join us! x